There’s something about the title MANAGER that as a young girl, I have always dreamed of becoming one when I grow up. So you bet, all my younger life, I have always aimed to land a good job in an office with a laser focus goal of climbing up the corporate ladder and eventually get myself be titled as a MANAGER. Sounds like a really exciting goal for me, yeah.
Fast forward to present, I obviously do not have the corporate title of a Manager now but the work that I do as a stay-at-home Mother pretty much qualifies me to be called a MOMnager.
What does a MOMnager exactly do? How do I typically go through my day as a MOMnager?
But let me warn you first, that this whole MOMnager work isn’t really exactly the fancy and glamorous one you think with that of an Office Manager. This one is more of the ground work, getting-your-hands-dirty kind of work, and sometimes the underpaid kind of manageral work. Hahaha joke!
As a MOMnager, I plan all the meals to be cooked for a week. From breakfast, lunch, snacks, until dinner. And you might ask why do I bother planning it out? Well, because I don’t want to be buying anything we don’t need for the week and spending money for things I won’t be cooking. In short, this practice saves us time going through the grocery aisles or checking out stalls in the wet market and ultimately, helps us keep within our budget.
Planning is one thing, but cooking is entirely different. And yes, I do a lot of cooking too.
Managing Family’s Finances
I don’t do the budget allocation simply because it’s not my strong suit. And that’s perfectly fine. Anyone between you and your husband can decide who’s more fit to do it. My main task is to stick to the budget as strictly as I could in almost all of our household spending – groceries, wet market purchases, utilities consumption, allowances, and many more.
It’s not easy – I tell you guys! You have to have a good eye for details and a strong will to keep within the budget at all cost. Yeah!! Otherwise, you’d always be slipping off your budget.
A little bit of plugging, I’m excited to share that we’re doing a Money MOMnagement workshop on July 28, 2018, that’s a Saturday for all MOMnagers like us who want to be more intentional in how we manage our family’s finances. Click this link for more information about the workshop. Come join, it’s going to be learning-filled I tell you!
Travel and Activity Management
You know how a lot of the planning work instantly goes under our care as Mothers. Yeah? I wonder why that is. Hahaha. But when it comes to traveling, getting on a trip, and planning weekend activities for the family, I do the researching, finding of best deals or vouchers, and other tasks under this scope. As a MOMnager, a lot of researching is part of the job. You have to be in-the-know for good deals, discounted tickets, and fun activities to put into your itinerary.
Yes, a MOMnager also does the teaching for her little children. In my case, I started Homeschooling (well, a little bit of it only) our 2 year old daughter. And boy, when I say homeschooling, it’s not just about making her watch educational videos. A lot of the work goes into planning which activities to do for the day, which lessons you want to highlight when you play, what manipulatives to introduce, or make-shift toys you want her to innovate and appreciate, or activities you want to do that will be learning-filled for your family. Your creativity as a mom is put to test, I tell you.
Mind you that when I say Household Organization, it’s not only about cleaning the house and making it squeaky clean. As a MOMnager, this part involves you making sure that all fixtures, appliances, and home equipments are in their mint condition and good for use. The repairs and refurbishings are also under your management. You have to have a good and reliable go-to person for your house repairs.
Organization does not only cover the household items, it can also extend as far beyond as repairs for your husband/children’s shoes, bags, or anything that they can’t do but you can spare some time doing for them.
Just when you thought your work remains only at home, you realize some of the work requires you to become a dotting driver for the family. Not just any driver but a Professional Driver who can ensure safety for your family. Bring kids to school, run errands outside, drive them to playdates, buy items outside the house and many more.
One thing I realized when I learned how to drive is that it’s really something that Moms should learn to do, if and when they can. Because a lot of the work that we do is difficult in its own already but having the means and the knowledge to drive lifts off some percentage of difficulty and helps us comfortably do our tasks.
With all these roles, you could just imagine how much work a MOMnager does throughout the day. And if you think these kinds of work end in about 8hrs or so as a typical working duration, you’re actually mistaken. Because the work just does not stop. The work is more than this list. In fact, there’s still a lot more to add to this list. And remember I told you that this isn’t the type of fancy and glam Manager kind of work, now you understand why. 🙂
But I guess the whole MOMnager role is made even more meaningful with these questions –
Why do you do what you do? Why did you go for it and let go a corporate work? Why this you have to choose it over opportunities ahead of you?
What is your WHY?
Your answer to these questions will change the whole perspective. It can soothe a tired spirit, mend a crushed soul, ease the exhausted body, and encourage a disheartened mother. Or can make you regret your choice, to begin with.
So, why do I do what I do? Or why do I choose to live out this season as a stay-at-home Mother? Because two things – 1) I believe that by fulfilling my role as a Homemaker wholeheartedly in my season now, I am able to honor God even though some people would regard this work as mundane; 2) I want my family to know how much intentional I am in serving and loving them by being a Homemaker.
I may have never gotten myself a Managerial title for a corporate career but I’m joyful to share to anyone who asks what I do now – that I’m a MOMnager of our own home. I may never have the chance to be get Managerial title ever in the future, but it’s not important anymore. Right now, my role as a Home MOMnager is far more greater than any roles I have had in the past and could potentially gotten myself into had I stayed as a working employee.
I may miss the hustle as a working individual but I know exactly that this was and is God’s purpose in my life right now. I don’t have to keep entertaining the If’s and But’s in my mind and in other people’s.
My hope is that all of us, mothers, whether SAHM, WAHM, or however you call it, will find the joy in living out God’s role for our lives right now – that is being a MOMnager to our family while giving God the honor in all that we do. A joyful, peaceful, willing, and God-loving MOMnager that our family would always remember us for.
1 Peter 4:10-11
Each of you should use whatever gift you have received to serve others, as faithful stewards of God’s grace in its various forms.
If anyone speaks, they should do so as one who speaks the very words of God. If anyone serves, they should do so with the strength God provides, so that in all things God may be praised through Jesus Christ. To him be the glory and the power for ever and ever. Amen.
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